“There it is now, she enters the room It guts like a fish to see how she’s grown Saw me go blind, step out of line, you know I can’t help myself When you get your groove on, I go blind.”
— The Jezabels
This song just came up on my shuffle. Havent heard it in years but it immediately took me back to me as a tween watching Dance Academy and sobbing.
I remember this song!!! I cried when Sammy died.
This way girls and boys can see they’re not alone. I have them and this would help me see that.
Embrace your stripes, y’all! :)
Question for all my stans out there. Around 2:18 in this video Timothée explains Luca’s choice not to include a graphic sex scene between Oliver and Elio. Luca seemed to think that showing the act of sex is what is expected and he wanted to preserve Andre Aciman’s essence of this being a love story and somehow showing graphic sex would take away from that. So my questions are these:
1. How does showing sex detract from the love story?
2. Was that really what Aciman would say? Do you seriously think he would not want a more graphic sex scene? Aciman seems to be a big fan of man on man sex to me.
3. Why did we get to see Elio with his dick inside Marzia? How is depicting vaginal penetration with her not taking away from the love story?
4. Why would a sassy old queen like Luca not want to show how beautiful gay sex can be while he is perfectly okay showing Tilda Swinton’s entire labia minora on film?
I need panning away to that goddamned tree to make more sense!!!!! I love you Luca, but I also hate you!
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Hi @timothee-soft-boy thanks for tagging me. My opinion on this is mixed so I apologise in advance for the rambling that follows.
Honestly, I’m not mad that they cut to the tree. If Armie and Tim weren’t comfortable filming something more explicit that’s their choice and I respect that. I think the intimacy we see between them makes them far more vulnerable than getting their dicks out anyway, but that’s just my opinion.
What bothers me is the inequality. I think it’s an example of the deeply ingrained sexism within our culture. Women’s bodies are so over sexualized that we’re treated as fair game. And yes, I know no one put a gun to Esther’s head and blah blah, but the point still stands. She doesn’t HAVE to be naked, does she?
I don’t really buy Luca’s line about sex taking away from the story. The book is really graphic, so that makes no sense. Unfortunately I think part of it must be to appeal to a more conservative audience. Until the world wakes up and becomes more accepting, if you want your film to have wider appeal, you have to compromise.
If we’re being honest when people think relationship they automatically think sex out of habit. This is a love story which of course sex is involved but at the same time it’s just a piece of their time together. I believe and agree with what Luca said. It would take away from the story. The book is graphic but at the same time I feel like some things aren’t meant for everyone’s eyes. There were moments where I felt like we were being let on to a secret in seeing this story. I also think it’s a bit greedy to demand more. Of course this is just my opinion. Plus you have to accept the actors may not have been up to such a scene.
What if supernatural creatures don’t exist anymore? What if they did once, but through the years, they slowly mixed in with humans?
You can see the blood of fairies in the way a ballet dancer hovers in mid air before he or she hits the ground. You can see it in the way that middle school girl never forgets when someone makes her a promise. You can see it in how that one little boy in the kindergarten class seems more comfortable in the forest on that field trip than the others.
You can see the blood of dryads in hikers who never trip over roots. You can see it in that suburban grandmother never lets any of her garden die. You can see it in that one kid who climbs a tree faster than his friends, barely looking at the branches as he goes.
You can see the blood of naiads in the way a professional swimmer seems to command the water to help them. You can see it in how a cross country runner needs a water break more often than his teammates. You can see it in the way that one girl in your class always has a water bottle on her desk.
You can see the blood of mermaids in a surfer who can be tossed around underwater for a long time without drowning. You can see it in a teenage boy who doesn’t have to pretend to be unbothered by the pressure when he races his friends to the bottom of a swimming pool. You can see it in the little girl who wades into every stream she sees on a hike without quite knowing why.
You can see the blood of sirens in people who never have a problem with getting people to date them. You can see it in that soprano who can hit notes most of her fellows can only dream of. You can see it in the camp counselor who all the straight girls have a crush on, who can play guitar and sing better than any of the others.
You can see the blood of shapeshifters in the way an actor adjusts their personality to become their character with scary accuracy. You can see it in the subconscious, barely noticeable changes a tween girl’s eyes make to match her outfit better. You can see it in the way you always lose that one friend in a crowd if you’re not careful, because he’s just too good at blending in.
People who carry the blood of werewolves don’t change with the full moon anymore, but you can still see it in the way your best friend always knows something is wrong, though even they don’t know they’re smelling the changes in your body chemistry. You can see it in the way that one guy always seems to eat more than the reasonable amount of red meat at an all-you-can-eat buffet. You can see it in the way that one werido never has a problem when the teacher turns off the lights before a PowerPoint presentation because her eyes adjust quicker and better than yours.
The blood of supernatural creatures may have mostly faded away. But if you look closely, you can still see it.
Me, a romantic: candlelit dinners, blooming roses, tender kisses, love letters, longing looks, beating hearts
Me, a Romantic: sword fighting, bloody knuckles, messy hair, smudged lipstick, cold hands, fiery eyes
Me, a romantic Romantic: gives my beloved the skull of my enemy with roses in the eye sockets
Me: I don’t know if I ever want to be pregnant, I’d rather adopt a kid or two that are a bit older
Someone: Are you SURE? Older adoptees present UNIQUE CHALLENGES
Me: We are discussing human beings not digital pets
Literally every child every born and/or parented presents unique challenges. It’s like people are unique individuals…..or something………….
An amazing and revolutionary concept
When people ask me, “Why do you want to adopt teenagers?” I always answer, “Because you asked like that.”
I’m real over it. If I become a foster mom to a 17 year old kid and I get the privilege of the option to adopt them? You better believe I am legally making that kid mine.
“They’ll be a legal adult in no time, why spend the money to adopt? They’ll be aged out of the system.”
There’s no aging out of family, Marvin.
“They might be rebellious or smoke or do drugs or steal things! What if they won’t listen to you?”
Then I guess I’ll have to step up and do some fruxking parenting, Stanley.
“You want to adopt problem children then?”
All. Children. Are. Problem. Children. If you’re not prepared to deal with the fact that at some point, any child ever, whether you birthed them yourself or adopted them at any age, could become a problem? Then you are NOT ready to have children, and should really just step off and let the people who actually want to be parents live in peace with their kids.
Hey I’m so glad this post is picking up
“Older children are so difficult why would adopt them??” ALL CHILDREN ARE DIFFICULT GUESS WE SHOULDN’T HAVE ANY GODDAMN
I love this post so, so much.
What do people think happens when they age out of the system? That they suddenly have access to grown up things like income and housing?
They just become homeless.
Another good one for those who enjoy Luca talking about his process. This one has a few comments from his long-time editor Walter Fasano, too! Turns out Fasano was involved in writing the script with James Ivory and Luca… which they all worked on just for the fun of it while hanging out at Luca’s place in Crema. I love this collaborative film family. (How can I convince them to adopt me?)
Highlights:
MM: One of the best things about the film is its electric performances. What’s your secret to directing great performances?
LG: Allowing myself to really fall in love with these actors and actresses. I think that is the secret, if there is any. It’s something I truly look forward to doing every time. It’s dangerous in a way. It can become messy. But there is no other way. You can let your actors lose themselves on camera, but you have to give them love and desire.
MM: Luca, do you allow a lot of improvisation on set?
LG: I do! It depends on the moment. I like the idea that something could happen that you don’t expect. When Elio and Oliver are speaking at the fountain about the book of the princess and the prince, Oliver comes out of the water and says, “Let’s go to the village to pick up something,” and Elio makes this whole fuss, making fun of the way Oliver speaks. That was improvisation. It was fantastic! It was a wonderful, wonderful moment and it speaks to the intelligence of Timothée.
me: *drops something*
me: *stares down at it in disappointment for a few seconds before picking it up*
do u ever see a boy so cute ur like..,,,,damn maybe.. I could tolerate him..,
